Why Being "Extra" Is a Toxic Trait for Working Parents and How Embracing "Basic" Leads to Happier Kids and Mommies
In today's social media-driven world, the pressure to be "extra" — to go above and beyond in every aspect of life — can be overwhelming, especially for working parents. However, this constant striving for perfection can be toxic and detrimental to both parents and children. At Beyond the 9th, we believe that embracing a "basic" approach to parenting can lead to happier, healthier families. Here's why being "extra" is counterproductive and how keeping it simple can benefit everyone.
The Toxicity of Being "Extra"
Being "extra" often involves trying to meet unrealistic standards, which can lead to burnout, stress, and a sense of inadequacy. This pressure can be particularly intense for working parents, who already juggle multiple responsibilities.
Tip: Recognize that social media often portrays an idealized version of reality. Real life doesn't need to be perfect to be meaningful.
The Benefits of Being "Basic"
Embracing a "basic" approach to parenting means focusing on what truly matters — love, attention, and quality time with your children. Here are some benefits of keeping it simple:
Reduced Stress: Simplifying your life reduces stress and allows you to enjoy the present moment.
Better Relationships: Focusing on genuine connections rather than perfection strengthens your bond with your children.
More Time: Simplifying your schedule gives you more time for meaningful activities and relaxation.
Happier Kids: Children thrive on love and attention, not elaborate events or expensive toys.
Tip: Prioritize activities that foster connection and joy, such as family meals, outdoor play, and reading together.
Practical Tips for Embracing "Basic" Parenting
Simplify Your Schedule: Avoid overcommitting to activities and events. Prioritize what's truly important for your family.
Focus on Essentials: Provide your children with the essentials of love, safety, and attention. Extravagance is unnecessary.
Be Present: Engage fully with your children during your time together. Put away distractions like phones and work.
Practice Self-Care: Taking care of yourself is crucial. A well-rested, happy parent is better equipped to care for their children.
Let Go of Perfection: Accept that you don't need to be perfect. Your best is enough.
Tip: Create simple family traditions that everyone enjoys and looks forward to, like a weekly movie night or a walk in the park.
Real-Life Examples of "Basic" Parenting
Here are some examples of how to incorporate a "basic" approach into your parenting routine:
Meals: Opt for easy, nutritious meals rather than elaborate recipes. Family meals are about connection, not complexity.
Birthdays: Celebrate with a simple gathering of close friends and family instead of a grand party.
Holidays: Focus on the meaning of the holiday and spend quality time together rather than buying excessive gifts.
Tip: Encourage your children to appreciate simple pleasures and the value of time spent together.
Conclusion
Being "extra" as a working parent can be a toxic trait that leads to stress and burnout. Embracing a "basic" approach to parenting allows you to focus on what truly matters, creating a happier, healthier environment for both you and your children. At Beyond the 9th, we support parents in finding balance and joy in simplicity. Visit our website for more resources and join our community for working moms to connect with others who share your values and experiences.
